In recent years, the term “kink” has become increasingly popular and, as a result, has been used to mean a variety of things.

In the context of the work that I do, I view kink as anything that deals with taboo subject matter, regardless of its nature.

For example, “kink” is often associated with sexuality and, although helping people to explore this in a safe container is something I offer, it can also relate to a number of other aspects, such as self-destructive habits, coping mechanisms, etc. to name a few.

For more on this this framing of kink, I recommend reading Existential Kink by Carolyn Elliott

Although less so now than just a few years ago, kink is still seen as taboo to many and lives on the fringes of what is considered acceptable or normative in terms of desires.

As a result, there is an inherent undertone of resistance, even shame, for many, when they think about some of their “darker” desires.

One of the greatest realizations I’ve made while practicing kink is that there are no “dark desires”; there are only desires and, just like any other, they are only an attempt at fulfilling a fundamental need.

With this mind, I believe that kink is the perfect conduit for shedding light on the relationship between needs and desires and tapping into the deepest depths of our being.

I chose the name Kink Consciousness because it speaks to my mindset and methodology.

What I mean by this is that I believe in being mindful of the “kinky” parts that live inside of us, as well as practicing kink (by engaging with these parts, even fulfilling them) in a conscious way.

I feel that these elements are complementary aspects to an approach to personal development which I have found to be life-changing.

I recommend this work for anyone who is looking to better understand their desires, their relationship to underlying needs and trauma, to dissolve the shame and resistance associated to them, or to integrate them in a healthy way.

That being said, when doing any type of introspective work, it is not uncommon to stumble upon parts of ourselves which are new, even uncomfortable, to us.

These realizations can be destabilizing, especially for those who are not used to looking within themselves.

With this in mind, I would primarily recommend Kink Consciousness to those who are experienced with other forms of personal development work.

Not at all!

All that is required is a willingness to explore some of the more uncomfortable parts that reside within you.

I draw from my many years practicing kink and personal development to provide a conscious environment and approach to tackling subjects that most have a difficult time understanding or accepting.

The themes found in kink are more of a guiding light to navigate the link between desires, needs, and traumas but practicing kink itself is not a prerequisite