Your desires, decoded.
Understand. Integrate. Connect.
Educational Scope Notice
KinkConsciousness and its programs, courses, coaching services, and materials are provided for educational and informational purposes only. They are designed to support reflection, self-awareness, and personal understanding around desire, intimacy, communication, and meaning.
These offerings do not constitute psychotherapy, counselling, psychological treatment, medical advice, or mental health care as defined under Québec law. The creator and facilitator is not acting in the capacity of a psychologist, psychotherapist, counsellor, sexologist, or healthcare professional.
I'm Christian, your guide to Desire and intimacy
Over many years of studying kink and personal development, I have refined an educational approach to exploring shame, desire, and connection in a way that many people find insightful and clarifying.
My own experience helped me develop language and reflective tools that contributed to increased confidence, self-acceptance, and deeper connection in interpersonal relationships.
I once carried deep shame and resistance toward my desires — until I began to understand that desires are often expressions of underlying needs seeking fulfillment.
I found personal clarity about my desires and developed language and tools that supported my confidence, self-acceptance, and connection in my relationships.
This is what led me to create KinkConsciousness — a reflective space where I offer educational perspectives and frameworks for exploring the shadow aspects of desire and identity.
Participation is voluntary and self-guided.
What you’ll find here
A grounded, educational approach to understanding desire — not as something to fix, but as information about what you need.
Frameworks for recognizing how shame, beliefs, and protective patterns shape your relationship with desire.
Practical tools for communicating needs and boundaries with clarity, consent, and without coercion.
A path from inner honesty to relational intimacy — at whatever pace feels safe.
My approach
I introduce a curious, understanding, and compassionate mindset for exploring desires and the needs underneath them.
Many people find that when they can name their patterns — the shame, the protectors, the beliefs — self-awareness deepens and internal barriers begin to soften.
Through guided exercises and language frameworks, participants explore ways of communicating needs and boundaries in their relationships with more clarity and less pressure.
These are reflective and educational tools, not therapeutic interventions.
This is the approach I use with my coaching clients, and it's also the foundation of my online course — Desires Decoded: From Shame to Intimacy!
Who this is for
This work may resonate with you if you carry confusion or shame around desire, struggle to communicate what you want in relationships, or feel disconnected from parts of yourself you've learned to hide.
Whether you're exploring kink consciously or simply seeking more honest self-understanding, this space is designed to meet you where you are — with curiosity, not judgment.
You don't need to be in crisis. You don't need to have it figured out. You just need to be willing to look.
What others have shared
Testimonial Disclaimer
The testimonials shared here reflect individual, subjective experiences and do not guarantee outcomes or results. Individual experiences vary.
Some testimonials have been edited for clarity, length, and to align with the educational scope of the services provided, without altering the substance of the participant’s experience.
“My experience with Christian began with the phrase “safe vulnerability”, which proved to be a recurring theme throughout our time together.
Christian’s extensive experience with conscientious BDSM, his intelligent and nonjudgmental curiosity, and his ability to hold space in an attuned, secure way make him [an ideal person to explore reflective work on BDSM shadow themes].
For me, that created the necessary space for hidden thoughts and desires to emerge in a way that felt safe and supported, even while bringing up deeply held fears.
As a result, I would describe my time with Christian as one of the most intimate and [meaningful] interpersonal experiences I’ve had.”
M, Shadow Work Client
“Desires Decoded has truly changed the way I see myself, my desires and needs, and my relationships.
Before taking the course, I had so much confusion around my desires and I’d always had trouble asking for what I wanted from partners – I didn’t realize that this was all due to shame.
I also really struggled with self-acceptance.
This course [gave me clarity around] the difference between needs and desires and how they relate to each other, which was so eye-opening for me. And the way that the teachings about shadows and shame are presented [supported my ability to reflect on self-compassion], which is such a big win for me.
I appreciate how digestible all the course material is.
[By the end, I noticed increased clarity and confidence in how I approach relationships].
I now [have language to consider different parts of my experience] so I can identify what my needs and desires are, and I know how to meet them with compassion instead of judgment.
I’m excited to get into my next relationship because I’m really looking forward to being in a relationship where I can actually feel known and understood by my partner, and I realize now that this starts by intimately getting to know and understand myself first.
I highly recommend Desires Decoded whether you’re single or already partnered.
I’m planning on going through it a second time with my future partner because I know that doing the exercises together will lay an incredible foundation of openness and understanding and trust in our relationship, which are the building blocks of intimacy.
I feel really grateful to have found this course!”
Tami, Desires Decoded Student
“I've done so much "work" on myself, and yet, I realize that as long as I have some shame around desires and fantasies, I am not free.
Kink is complex and this is where Christians' expertise, care, and support has been immensely helpful to unearth the remaining blockages in my heart and body. [His consideration and empathy helped create a reflective space in which I could explore difficult thoughts and feelings with trust and clarity].
[If you carry shame around your erotic expression, Christian's approach may offer a meaningful place to begin exploring it.]”
Aude, Shadow Work & Coaching Client
“I confess that I didn’t know what to expect from a session on kink consciousness, but so glad I was open enough to give it a try!
Christian is so attentive, sensitive and incredibly knowledgeable! I’ve done all sorts of therapy in my life. Still, I was genuinely impressed by the amount of details he perceived in my speech that [introduced perspectives that helped clarify topics that had felt unclear] for me for YEARS.
I am sure that men might benefit greatly from his sessions as well but speaking as a woman I’d say it’s quite necessary to allow yourself to go through these depths with someone so kind, careful and passionate.
Wishing that you reach as many people as possible, Chris! Your work is gold!”
Fernanda, Coaching Client
“As a coach, Christian has a way of creating a safe, non-judgmental space that allows me to dive into the depths and nuances of myself. Usually, it takes a long time for me to build the trust needed to feel safe sharing these vulnerable, well hidden parts, but with Christian, that trust has naturally been there from the beginning.
His deep experience with inner work and shadow work, combined with his proactive and structured approach to meeting resistance and challenges, really resonates with me. Christian isn’t afraid to challenge you and hold you accountable, helping you create the change you’ve been longing for in your life.
I’ve done a lot of inner work over the years, but the way Christian shows up with his 'clear mirror' and attentiveness has [created a supportive reflective space that allowed me to explore aspects of myself with more understanding and awareness]. I wholeheartedly recommend taking this step and giving yourself this experience!”
Cecilia, Coaching Client
I highly recommend working with Christian. He has a hard earned wisdom that he very lovingly applies in his sessions.
He's a kind hearted man who's not afraid to challenge me when I need it. He's able to very quickly get to the crux of things and focus on solutions rather than get bogged down in the excuses my own mind might get hung up on.
[Christian’s approach encouraged useful reflection and insight, and I continue to be satisfied with the experience].
Barney, Coaching Client
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Online course
For those who prefer to explore at their own pace,
the Desires Decoded: From Shame to Intimacy online course
offers a structured, self-guided path through the same frameworks I use in coaching — with built-in pacing tools so you can go as gently as you need to.
1:1 coaching
I offer individualized coaching centered on understanding desire, needs, and personal patterns.
Sessions are exploratory and self-directed, using reflective frameworks and dialogue — not therapeutic treatment.
We begin with an initial conversation to discuss your questions and intentions and to assess whether my approach aligns with what you're looking for. Participation is voluntary.
Contact me at admin@kinkconsciousness.com.