Your desires decoded:

Embrace, integrate, and Connect

I'm Christian, your guide to Desires and intimacy

During my 18 years of studying and practicing kink and personal development, I discovered a truly life-changing approach to transforming shame from desires into deep and meaningful connection and intimacy.

I once was riddled with crippling shame and resistance towards my desires, until I discovered that our desires are often a manifestation of underlying needs trying to be fulfilled.

I was finally able to find clarity about my desires and transform shame and resistance into confidence, self-acceptance, and deeper connection in my relationships.

This was one of the reasons that led me to create KinkConsciousness, a safe, confidential space in which I help people like you find the light that resides in our Shadows.

Ultimately KinkConsciousness is all about being conscious of the kink that lives in all of us, and exploring that kink in a conscious way.

My approach…

…involves adopting a curious, inquisitive, understanding and compassionate mindset about your desires.

Acknowledging their importance and validating the needs they are trying to fulfill will help dissolve your shame.

Once the resistance begins to subside, we’ll begin to integrate them, allowing us to find new, safe, and healthy ways of fulfilling your needs.

With this new understanding of your needs and desires, you’ll learn to communicate them effectively, allowing you to connect more authentically and intimately in your relationships.

This is the approach I take with my coaching clients, and is also what can find in my online course - Desires Decoded: From Shame to Intimacy!

“My experience with Christian began with the phrase “safe vulnerability”, which proved to be a recurring theme throughout our time together.

Christian’s extensive experience with conscientious BDSM, his intelligent and nonjudgmental curiosity, and his ability to hold space in an attuned, secure way make him an ideal person to explore the nuances of BDSM shadow work with.

For me, that created the necessary space for hidden thoughts and desires to emerge in a way that felt safe and supported, even while bringing up deeply held fears.

As a result, I would describe my time with Christian as one of the most intimate and empowering interpersonal experiences I’ve had.”

M, Shadow Work Client

“Desires Decoded has truly changed the way I see myself, my desires and needs, and my relationships.

Before taking the course, I had so much confusion around my desires and I’d always had trouble asking for what I wanted from partners – I didn’t realize that this was all due to shame.

I also really struggled with self-acceptance.

This course helped me clearly understand the difference between needs and desires and how they relate to each other, which was so eye-opening for me. And the way that the teachings about shadows and shame are presented enabled me to actually start feeling compassion towards myself, which is such a big win for me.

I appreciate how digestible all the course material is.

By the end, I felt not only more informed but also freer and more confident about being able to have the kind of deep intimacy I’ve always wanted in a relationship.

I now know how to listen to the different parts of me so I can identify what my needs and desires are, and I know how to meet them with compassion instead of judgment.

I’m excited to get into my next relationship because I’m really looking forward to being in a relationship where I can actually feel known and understood by my partner, and I realize now that this starts by intimately getting to know and understand myself first.

I highly recommend Desires Decoded whether you’re single or already partnered.

I’m planning on going through it a second time with my future partner because I know that doing the exercises together will lay an incredible foundation of openness and understanding and trust in our relationship, which are the building blocks of intimacy.

I feel really grateful to have found this course!”

Tami, Desires Decoded Student

“I've done so much "work" on myself, and yet, I realize that as long as I have some shame around desires and fantasies, I am not free.

Kink is complex and this is where Christians' expertise, care, and support has been immensely helpful to unearth the remaining blockages in my heart and body. His level of consideration and empathy is unparalleled, he conducts the session and exercises with utmost respect and gentle leadership so that we feel fully safe to open up, feel, release, and heal that which was never dark and return to wholeness.

If you have any sexual trauma or feel shame around your erotic expression, hire Christian now and free yourself, too.”

Aude, Shadow Work & Coaching Client

“I confess that I didn’t know what to expect from a session on kink consciousness, but so glad I was open enough to give it a try!

Christian is so attentive, sensitive and incredibly knowledgeable! I’ve done all sorts of therapy in my life. Still, I was genuinely impressed by the amount of details he perceived in my speech that brought me immense clarity on topics that had been foggy for me for YEARS.

I am sure that men might benefit greatly from his sessions as well but speaking as a woman I’d say it’s quite necessary to allow yourself to go through these depths with someone so kind, careful and passionate.

Wishing that you reach as many people as possible, Chris! Your work is gold!”

Fernanda, Coaching Client

“As a coach, Christian has a way of creating a safe, non-judgmental space that allows me to dive into the depths and nuances of myself. Usually, it takes a long time for me to build the trust needed to feel safe sharing these vulnerable, well hidden parts, but with Christian, that trust has naturally been there from the beginning.

His deep experience with inner work and shadow work, combined with his proactive and structured approach to meeting resistance and challenges, really resonates with me. Christian isn’t afraid to challenge you and hold you accountable, helping you create the change you’ve been longing for in your life.

I’ve done a lot of inner work over the years, but the way Christian shows up with his 'clear mirror' and attentiveness has created the kind of healing space that I and my parts have longed for. I wholeheartedly recommend taking this step and giving yourself this experience!”

Cecilia, Coaching Client

I highly recommend working with Christian. He has a hard earned wisdom that he very lovingly applies in his sessions.

He's a kind hearted man who's not afraid to challenge me when I need it. He's able to very quickly get to the crux of things and focus on solutions rather than get bogged down in the excuses my own mind might get hung up on.

Christian has helped me immensely and I continue to be extremely satisfied with his approach.

Barney, Coaching Client

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Online course

For some, an in-person approach is too challenging when working with topics of desires and shame.

For those who prefer to do this work on their own, or at their own pace, we offer the Desires Decoded: From Shame to Intimacy online course.

For a limited time only, you can sign now up at our inaugural price!

Visit the Desires Decoded: From Shame to Intimacy landing page.

1:1 coaching

Helping you dissolve shame and resistance by understanding the relationship between your desires and needs to find self-acceptance.

I invite you to schedule a free discovery call during which we will discuss your intentions and see what session structure best fits your needs.

You can view my testimonials above or contact me at admin@kinkconsciousness.com with any questions to get a better sense of if this work is meant for you.